Guardian Angel of Random Act of Kindness

It was 11.30 pm or so. I was driving home from long day of work. Halfway, saw a Perodua Viva in hazard light, stalled at the traffic light. I drove past them.

Part of me saying
"you just drove past it. getting back to there requires one big round. You know nothing about car troubleshooting, there is no use you stop by. You are tired, faster just go home"

Somehow, I made the decision to turn back to the car. True enough, the car suffers from some gear box malfunction. It needs to be sent to workshop. At that hour, workshops are all closed.

The couple inside the car are actually clueless of what to do. I googled for them the 24-hour car breakdown service provided by the insurance company. But then, what they bought did not covered of breakdown assistance. I offered them contacts for car towing friends.

But they aren't keen to pay the high cost as this is already a midnight call. So I helped them to push the car to somewhat 300m away to park the vehicle at more appropriate location.

Then, seeing the issue considered settled, as they already called their friend to come and pick them up to go back to Cheras, I leave the place.

The reason that I gone back to help them is because I was reminded how it feels like to have car breakdown,stranded and feeling helpless. During those time, I was fortunate to have assistance from many random people whom passes by, offers their skills and knowledge to sort things out.
It's because of this random act of kindness by those people inspired me to do this.

I dedicate this to the random Guardian Angel that helped me during my vehicle breakdown. Thank you.

Significant 26 of 26

This should have been written 2 months ago, but due to much procrastination busy schedule, it is only to be posted today.
Here it goes

1) Singapore - For the 1st time.

Many thanks to the warm welcome and the free accommodation from many many friends!

2) New spectacles. From white to thin plastic frame.

3) Got job transferred to Port Dickson, building UCSI Medical Center.

4) Started IDC Frisbee 1.0 (and subsequent Frisbee game)

5) Organizing Committee for BGF Photography 1.0.

6) BGF Food and Fun Fair

7) Adele Boey and Alexander Yeoh wedding.

8)Bought tix to watch Harimau Malaya against Singapore

9) Helping random people on her car broke down.
On a random morning, on the way to work, saw a car broke down and she (an auntie) having problem to attend the issue.

10) Car accident in Seremban.

11) Attending IDC 35

12) Volunteering to sell AnimalCare tee at IBYFG 2011.

13) Attending as part of Fellowship of 1000 gems.

14) Got conned into taking "feng tao yun". no next time.

15) Becoming committee member for IDC 36.

16) Pnomh Penh & Siam Reap trip!

17) New job- Facilities Engineer @ Shaftsbury Square

18) RIP for EK.Chung

19) Visiting Cameron Highland - for the 1st time.

20) Company trip to Bali Island

21) Standard Chartered KL Marathon - 10km.

22) Blind dates.

23) Yellow change new rim & tyres

24) Awaiting for Jay Chou in Pavillion.

Waited for more than an hour (unplanned), which I ended only to get a failed photo of his.

25) Join Cheras Underdawgz to play frisbee.

26) Car - change bumper and repaint.

Rumours haz it

I remember there was once, my mom moulala asked me about a girl. She thought I was after some girl which I have no idea how and why think that way.... Later in the conversation, founded out that she 'spied' me on facebook (much thanks to elder brother's account)...

And that picture was simple.

It shows that my life haz very little of XX-species taking pictures with me that a random simple picture created much thoughts.

The other picture pretty much simple too...

It also created some 'raised eyebrow' among a friend.

Weird, right?

Facebook is a tool where everybody is watching..

Here is another friend of mine, which that many of friends (even those I close with) thought there was something going on between us.. here is the picture that begin to create some 'rumours'

I admit, this girl frequently appeared in my facebook. However, most people fail.... or more precisely, choose to ignore the presence of another dude in almost all of the albums. In fact, with this girl, I only went out 1-on-1 with her twice, after knowing her for so long.

Once for short drinking, once for a movie.. That's it.

However, this picture too appeared in facebook,

but created no rumours.

This one too..

I wonder what element in the picture that leads to people thinking I have things toward the lady in the pictures...
Face expression? Body language? Or the feel of the individual picture ?

On the positive side of this, it's good to know that my friends around me are concern about who I am going to spend the rest my life with, which is a good thing.

Perhaps it's also because the last announced relationship I had was back in 2006 before it ended. The other one was short and underground. Didn't get to really introduce to my friends outside our mutual friend circle.

But worry not. I like girls and I'm not hiding in the closet.

When i was 17

Among so many advises or opinions that I received whole my life, this particular discussion with Wenni Leong, whom was then my brother's girlfriend and now my sis-in-law, made a very big impact to my life.

When I was 17...... no, let's go way back to 13.

13, I secretly liked a girl in my neighbourhood. Though I had many chance and encounters with her, and me, Chooi Leang, was being very very shy back then (and also very noob), was too afraid to march forward. To cut the story short, nothing ever happened with me & her.

So, at 17, after my SPM, having much free time, waiting for my results and future still undecided, there was one occassion where Wenni discussed with me of my POV on love and relationship.

Being much influenced by the movies, having no experience of couple, seeing how suffer it is when (few) friends of mine break-up with their other one, my (back then) mindset leads me to saying these:

*M for Me, W for Wenni*

M: I think I should really really thoroughly choose my wanna-be girl, get it right on the 1st one

After I said it out, I was given a straight immediate "NO" from Wenni.

W: How do you able to justify when you had chosen one and she will be the one??

I then defended my stand with my reasons and she ask another question

W: So, if you decided to slowly choose, how old will you gonna be when you found your so-called The One?

M: Eh, how to answer lar this question? Cannot know one mar...

W: EXACTLY! How old are you now? 17, right? Let's say you preserve with your current "strategy" and found your 1st-One right after you graduated. I saw 21-22 like that lah, okay?

So you start at 22, paktor for say 5-6 years. If the plan really goes your way, ok then fine. Get married. Have kids. Do whatever you want.

But do you ever think what it would be if it fails? You have to restart the whole cycle again. You think you after break up can straight away get another 1 aah? Drag drag drag, you can easily 30 years old already.

M: but what would mom thinks? all other my 3 brothers just brought one home and I keep on changing mehh??

W: That's what I am saying. They brought him showed to your mom, when they are already 26-27! There's not much room for error...

What I am telling you is, if you inject some braveness and start exploring early, in case anything goes wrong, it's okay one. You have longer years to "repair" and when you failed, you know where is the mistake and you can avoid doing it to the next one.

Months later, I met my ex.

I tell you, if I didnt had the above discussion with Wenni, I doubt I'm go all out for this girl and continue to lay-back.

Went through the courtship and won her heart later on. True enough, after about 2 years of relationship, it ended.

But I gained a lot from it. From many aspect. From courtship, to relationship to break-ups.

What leads me to write this post is, recently I had the similar discussion as per above mentioned. Only this time, I am the "senior" position.

And the way I look it, these kids actually having the similar mindset as mine when I was 17.

--- AFRAID OF GETTING HURT ---

A lot of "what if" comes into their mind.

Please, brush that off.

Break ups hurts.

And it hurts real bad.

But like what Wenni said, if you drags it for too long and when you're late 20's and still never been kissed, then really. You really have not much room for errors. It's literally any1 that you pick, will be the one already. Age is ticking.

Everyone wants a perfect fairy tale 1-time-hit love story. But, not everyone have the luck to have it. Don't get deceived by the movie plots. It's BLARDY SCRIPTED for Buddha's sake.

Also don't see break ups as something is bad. Tho it hurts miserably, but it's blardy fucking good learning curve. This, I don't lie.

I will say the same thing that Wenni told me back then:

"Just do it, responsibly"

How to become a Hero & Really Save Life(s)??

Everybody dreams to be a Hero....

They wish/dream that maybe One day, if I wake up with certain so & so superpower, I can do this and do that....

Today, I'm gonna guide you to the Leaxx7's method of becoming a real Hero. Here are some options

Option #1

went underground training in the cave, learns all the martial arts and body combat and upgrade your senses + reflexes!

Then, inherit a ridiculously huge sum of money, build underground secret base, engineered a super cool car and equip yourself with home-made gadgets.

Option #2

Find a spider. Let it bites you.

If you are lucky, you can start climbing walls tomorrow.

Else, go to doctor and repeat the process with a different type of spider.

Option #3

Migrate (find your way) to Planet Krypton.

Comes back wearing very tight suit pairs with a red cape.

It is to match with the red underwear that to be worn outside.

Option #4

Donate blood or pledge to be Organ to donor

Like this girl below:

Check for the blood-donation drives near you and for organ donation, you can click HERE.

p/s : the upcoming blood donation drive I know of is the IMU Blood Donation and Organ Pledge Campaign,

21st - 23rd March 2012 @ IMU Driveway , Bukit Jalil, 10am to 4pm.

Now, choose your option.

You don't have to be special to save lives, you just need to take the action.

May the power be with you. =)

Friend-Zoned

As I blogged about it very long time ago,

Ladies segregated their male friends into two categories. Friend and potential.

Therefore, there are times where you a male and a female friend, very close to each other but will never become an item.

The male is obviously likes her alot but the girl treats him as a 'FRIEND ONLY'. The dude is what we called as "Friendzoned".

I hate quoting Bieber's song which is quite true,

We're just Friends, What are you saying??

Well, it may seem harmless to be friendzoned, right?

Not true. Let me put a metaphor to the situation.

Let's say you gone to job interview. You like that job. They like you too. They keep on saying good things about you and always keep you around. They tell their internal news and stuff to you. They requested you to do this and that, and you, with full enthusiasm, get it done almost voluntarily. You think you nailed the job.

BUT... NO!

They are not offering you the job. Even though the position is vacant, and they are looking for a suitable candidate. But heck no. The job is not yours.

Worse case is, sometimes, there are some other candidates and they tells you how sucky and what an asshole that person is, but has a better position in getting the job than you.

So, when you know that the job is not going to be yours, will you still give a fuck to that said company?

So ladies, don't blame the (nice)guys when he walks out from your life.

Incovar 35th - It's coming to you

INCOVAR (stands for INter COllege VARsities) Dhamma Camp - a 4-days camp for the college and universities students all over Malaysia to gather around to learn Buddha's Dhamma through experience and talks from recognized speakers.

Through IDC 30 - Kuantan

I learned what is Dhamma, 5 precepts, 5 Enobling Virtues & of the important of Honesty, Love & Mindful-ness

IDC 31 - Subang Jaya

I learned how to finally let go of the past hatred (& burden) that I kept in myself for too long.

Incovar Excite

I learned that Frustration & Anger will bring me nowhere

Incovar 33 - Petaling Jaya

I learned that there is no such that "you have to do" ... It's always the matter of "you choose to"...

It's because you choose to be afraid of taking extra measurements, that's why you made it "you have to"..

Incovar 34 - Subang Jaya

I learned (a little bit) of what they say as Mudita - Experiencing Joy in the Joy of others.

I'm not sure what I am going to learn in the 35th camp -Yes, we are learning regardless we are participants, helpers, or committee members- but I'm pretty sure I'm gonna learn something from it.

After all, what you gonna lose for attending something that intend to make you a better person?

Incovar 35th will be held Dec 15 - Dec 18th 2011 at Wat Chetawan, Petaling Jaya.